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Anjula Cheema

I am a British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP) registered therapist and a UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) registered child and adolescent psychotherapist.

Milton Keynes, UK

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Welcome to Talking Therapy MK

There will be times in our life when we feel we could benefit from speaking to someone about a trouble (past or present) that is hurting us. Sometimes we know what is causing the pain, sometimes we do not. What therapy can offer is a safe space to express, explore and make sense of the pain and/or other feelings you may be experiencing. By making use of your own resources and insights gained from the process, therapy can allow you to grow and change in

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To be or not to be … in therapy?

If you’re reading this article then you may be seeking a therapist. You might be feeling run down, experiencing stomach problems, headaches, aches and pains or breathing difficulties. You may be experiencing flashbacks or panic attacks. Perhaps you’re finding it hard to concentrate, or you’re worrying more. You may be feeling irritable, feeling “down” or angry. You might withdraw from family and friends, and don’t take as much care of yourself as you once did. You find yourself enjoying less the things

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Self-Injury In Young People

Within days of qualifying as a therapist back in late 2012, I was given the opportunity to provide therapy to young people attending secondary school. Before long, I was working with adolescents who were telling me about their experiences of self injury, how it made them feel, and their understanding around why they did it. I continued to work in a number of schools, some of which were multi- cultural and so I also had the privilege of working with young people from a range of

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Cutting and self-injury. What is it and why do people do it?

“No one knows I do it, cut that is. If they did, they would think I was crazy. A loony. But it helps me. It gives me a break from those thoughts that circle round and round in my head that tell me how stupid, worthless, ugly, bad, dirty and rotten I am and how I can’t do anything right, that I don’t deserve happiness … It gives me a break from the feelings too. When things happen that remind me of my past – the

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Domestic abuse: Britain’s dirty secret

I have a secret that I’ve been told not to tell anyone. It damages me and others that I care for in ways I know to be physical, emotional and psychological. If I was to open my mouth and reveal this secret and speak the words I have feared and am too ashamed to voice, then maybe, just maybe things might change for the better, for me and my loved ones. But I’m scared. So many people, including family and friends, tell me not

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Anxious parents do an anxious child make

It’s that time of the year when many young people will be getting ready to sit exams. It can be a time of anxiety for the child and as is sometimes forgotten, for parents too. As a parent, it is important to be aware of how our anxiety can influence their exam anxiety, and the support we give them during this period. So why do this? Self reflection will help you understand what your child may be feeling right now and needing right now. It

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Some practical ways to help support your child through exams

Research has indicated that there are a number of things parents can do to reduce the anxiety that children experience during exam time. The first thing is to talk to your child– find out how they are feeling about their exams. Listen, try not to criticise or judge. Explore their fears and expectations. Remind your child that it is normal to feel nervous or anxious about exams. Certain levels might even be useful in helping them focus on revision. You may also want to consider sharing

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